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| Acceptance is like broccoli. You don't have to like it, but it's really good for you... |
Hey, I've been sober a long time. So, you may be asking yourself if it's any different today than it was back when I was drinking or in early sobriety....
The answer's a typical lawyer answer....
It's yes.
And NO.
Easier part first. No, I haven't changed that much. I'm an instant gratification girl. I still want what I want when I want it. And I find it aggrivating when I don't get it. Still.
The only real difference is how I deal with things today.
I was talking to my sponsor today about a situation that I'm in that I don't like. But I've accepted that this is the way that things are. I'm not delusional. I know that there's nothing that I can do to change it.
That said, I certainly don't have to like it. And I don't. I really don't.
And she reminded me. It's not a problem not to like the way that things sometimes work out. It's a problem not to accept them for what they actually are. (OK, it sounded much more sage-like when she said it, but it's the message that's important not the words...)
Accepting reality is hard. It requires a level of honesty with yourself that it takes a lot of work (at least it did for me) to come by.
Accepting things for the way that they actually are allows me to move forward with my life. Even when they're things that I don't want to accept.
So, I swallow my distaste for the situation and recognize it for what it is. Unchangeable (at least by me), immovable and frustrating.... And I hate it.
But it's time to just hate it and try to move on.
Are you able to accept the things in your life that you don't like?
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Deena,
ReplyDeleteGreat reminder about acceptance! I hate the moments when I feel like, I really really don't like this. My sponsor always says that's when I'm in the middle of a 'hidden gift' (her words-gag!) But she's usually right. These days I'm learning that the minute I utter the words, "what the f^%?" the hidden gift is there and waiting for me. Sobriety gifts don't always come in pretty packaging.